A dementia diagnosis, whether Alzheimer’s or another form, does not just impact memory; it can reshape relationships, routines, and even confidence. Many family members and friends find themselves unsure how to stay close or what to say during visits. However, meaningful connections are still possible and needed more than ever.
At Divine Favour Healthcare Staffing Inc., we often hear from families who hesitate to visit a loved one with dementia out of fear: “Will they recognize me?” “What if I say the wrong thing?” “Will it even matter if I show up?” These are deeply human questions. The truth is, your presence still matters sometimes more than your words ever could.
The Power of Just Showing Up
Even when memory fades, the feeling of being cared for and seen can still be deeply felt. A kind face, a familiar voice, or a simple shared moment can bring calm and reassurance. What you say may be forgotten, but how you make them feel often lingers.
That said, dementia visits can be unpredictable. Knowing a few helpful “dos and don’ts” can make your time together smoother and more meaningful for both of you.
Do This: Building a Gentle, Supportive Visit
✔ Make eye contact and smile warmly. A soft, reassuring presence helps create trust and comfort.
✔ Go along with their world. If they think you are their teacher, coworker, or neighbor, embrace it. Meet them where they are.
✔ Keep things simple and slow. Speak in short sentences. Leave space for silence. Let them respond in their own time.
✔ Bring something to share. A photo album, music, an old recipe book, or even a favourite snack can spark joy or memories.
✔ Stay at eye level. Sitting if they are seated helps keep the interaction calm and grounded.
✔ Use either-or questions. Instead of “What would you like?”, try “Would you like some tea or juice?”
✔ Reintroduce yourself calmly if needed. “Hi, Uncle Joe. It’s Ben, your nephew. I’m so glad to be here.”
Avoid This: Triggers That Can Create Confusion or Stress
✖ Do not talk down to them. Speak with respect, as you would with anyone else.
✖ Do not take hurtful words personally. Dementia can sometimes lead to angry or confusing outbursts, but it is not directed at you.
✖ Avoid correcting or arguing. If they say something inaccurate, it is okay. Let the moment pass or gently redirect.
✖ Hide your frustration. Your tone, body language, and facial expressions speak volumes. Try to stay calm, even if the visit is difficult.
✖ Skip memory quizzes. Asking “Do you remember me?” or “Do you remember that time we…” can create pressure and discomfort.
✖ Never talk around them. If others are in the room, include your loved one in the conversation.
The Role of In-Home Support in Dementia Care
Consistency, comfort, and compassionate care make a world of difference for people living with dementia. Whether it is a daily visit or a few hours a week, trained caregivers help create structure, engagement, and peace of mind.
At Divine Favour Healthcare Staffing Inc., our dedicated team is experienced in dementia care. We understand the emotional weight this journey can bring, and we are here to walk alongside you.
Together, we can create moments that matter, even in the face of memory loss.
We serve communities across Ontario, including key areas like the GTA, Niagara Region, Ottawa, and beyond. Our ability to provide care depends on both your needs and the availability of our trusted caregivers in your area. Reach out today to explore how we can start supporting your family.
Call us today at 647-766-5394 or visit https://lnkd.in/g7chHh5G to book a free, no-pressure assessment.